Hello, I am Moe the blogger behind Five Sixteenths and I've just graduated from college with a BFA! I wanted my guest post on My Best Friend Jules to be all about what I've learned on this crazy bumpy ride. Graduation day was a long time coming but, like many big events in life, college was the way I discovered who I wanted to be and who I've always been.
You don't have to be friends with everyone - Some friends will go and some will stay but since this is the time everyone is discovering who they really are and who they want to be, it is quite unlikely that you will stay friends with everyone you meet. And that's really ok, because you will find the people you belong with and so will they.
Take your time - it's only 4 years long (or in my case 5) so you have to enjoy it! It will feel like ages but when Senior year comes, you'll realize its been too short.
Go in undeclared - there is no sense knowing exactly what you want to study the moment you come in. I changed majors 4 times in school because I didn't know what I wanted to do. Take time to take classes, join clubs and meet people. If it weren't for a side comment from a person who is a really good friend now, I wouldn't be doing exactly what I've wanted to do for a long time.
I've always loved Purple - over the course of my college career I learned that I've always liked the things I've liked and no matter how hard I fought it....it was always true. One time, a long time ago, my aunt asked me if I could do anything in the world, anything, what would I do? I responded with "I'd like to own my own little shop that sold handmade stuff." I was probably in high school. I forgot this for a long time and did other things. But, life has brought me right back to what I've wanted to do.
Take risks - whatever you do, do something (productive) that others would never think you would do. Tackle your fears, it feels really good to!
Your sister can be your best friend - My sister and I used to hate each other. But as we grew up and both went off to college we realized we could be very close.
Manage your spending - you don't have to have spreadsheet after spreadsheet but a mental note is alright. Don't get a credit card, don't sign up for subscriptions, always keep enough money in your checking account, pick up extra shifts at work - all of these things will allow you to have the fun you want to have in college. Building up good money habits are important.
Eat lunch alone sometimes - take in the view from your campus uninhibited by your friends. Lunch dates are great but this will give you time to reflect. Do it in your busy dining hall, no one will judge you!
Smile a lot - it makes others smile.
Have fun - Don't take college too seriously. Yes you are getting a degree that could change your life...but you are experiencing a whole bunch more that could change your life. You'll make a lot of connections and meet a lot of people. Show them that you are serious but also fun loving.
I hope this wasn't too wordy of a post. But as I pack up, start my new job, move and unpack... these are the experiences I'm reflecting on. This also goes for any big event in your life... we all learn from everything we do. Keeping our heads high in times of change is the most important part of life!